Writing a Personal Narrative.

So much depends
on the red wheelbarrow
glazed with rain water
beside the white chickens.

-William Carlos Williams

It was funny to be swimming and clambering around with my kids yesterday in a remote stream in the Berkshires and thinking: "This would be a cool experience to blog about!" People ask me sometimes if encouraging people to get on the computer is a "good thing." As with anything in life, it is only a bad thing when it is used un-wisely or at the expense of living your life to the fullest. As I write this on my back porch, Charlie is swinging on a rope swing: EJ is collecting ants for his ant farm while Tommy investigates and shouts with joy at every caterpillar he can find.  I am eager to pack up the bus and head to the Cape and get my old sailboat in the water, so I can spend longs days (and some nights) cruising around Pleasant Bay and Vineyard Sound.   After years of teaching writing, I can say with confidence that personal narrative writing is the number one BEST way to improve the overall quality of your writing. You have to have experience before you can recreate that experience.

Personal Narratives are the stories of our lives.  By habitually practicing the art of storytelling through personal narratives we practice the basic craft of the Short Story and the Essay. By telling the stories of our lives we follow the main rule of all writing: Write about what you know! I could write all day about the joy of Bungee jumping, and I still couldn't convince a toad that I knew what I was talking about.  But if I wrote about the day I watched people bungee jumping off a bridge, then I could probably get that toad to publish the story for me. I could be the protagonist, and my best friend forcing me to try could be the antagonist; fear of jumping into the unknown could be the conflict; standing up to my friend could be the climax; falling out of a tree when I was young could be my supporting facts; facing and trying to overcome my fears could become the theme of my essay/story, and when a reader can relate to  your theme, they are able to recreate your story in their own imaginations.  It might force them to think about their own fears, and in doing so, your story effects a powerful transformations in their lives.

Every day and every experience is a possible personal narrative.  If that experience means anything to you, it will mean the same thing to someone else because we are all tied together by our "common humanity;" we share the same emotional connections, but how we experience those emotions is infinite and infinitely varied--and that is why our libraries and bookshelves are filled, and that is why we all keep returning to the power and creative magic of literature.  Think of everything you write as true literature.
Don't get bogged down by form and structure, but do ask yourself why you are writing about that experience.

Here are a few ideas I keep in my head when writing a personal narrative.  These ideas also work for any type of short story:

1. Put a man in tree.  Throw stones at him.  Get him down: That is to say, whenever we write a personal narrative or a short story we need to create the scene, show the conflict, and then show how that conflict works itself out.
2. Make sure your reader has an idea of where you are taking him or her "early" in the story. Nobody likes to get in a car blind-folded with a stranger and have no idea where he is taking you. You will jump out of the car at the first chance you get!  You don't need or want to be specific about where you are going with your story, but you certainly want your reader to feel like it is going to be an interesting ride. A simple strategy is to make sure that somewhere (preferably at the end) of your first paragraph there is some kid of guiding statement or foreshadowing technique that assures your reader that your story is going to be worth ride.
3. Use specific images and actions to tell your story: Always remember that your reader is not "in your mind." They can't see what is in your head until you "show" them.
4. Use nouns and verbs to create those images and actions: Your readers can put together nouns and verbs without much difficulty. Use adjectives and adverbs only as a way to help your reader--not distract them. The "red wheelbarrow, glazed with rain water beside the white chickens" is a great way to "paint a scene."  If William Carlos Williams wrote the same line as, "the chickens are next to the wet wheelbarrow," then his poem would probably have died a short death.
5. Well chosen dialogue makes everything you write come alive: Words spoken by people who were with you act like supporting facts in an essay.  They are proof that what you say is true, and serve to engage another part of your readers senses. Remember to always lead into a quote by setting the scene; don't just drop dialogue int a writing piece with no context to "hear" that dialogue spoken.
6. Punctuate as well as you can:   For the most part, punctuation is all about the comma--everything else flows from understanding when and where  comma works best.  In future posts, I will deal with commas and other punctuation in more detail. For right now, just be aware that punctuation (a relatively recent part of the creative process) simply helps your reader experience what you want them to experience.
7. Use paragraphs to lead your reader through your story: Contrary to what we are often taught, there is no minimum or maximum "length" for a paragraph. In a short piece, short paragraphs work fine.  Long paragraphs work well in longer pieces.  As a suggestion (not a rule) have the first sentence of your paragraph indicate the direction or idea you are going to write about.  (I call those sentences "steering sentences.") If when writing or editing you find yourself "off of the idea," then simply start a new paragraph.
8. Try to end your story by leaving your readers thinking, wondering, wowing, squirming or relieved:  Just don't leave them hanging.  If your story is well told, the ride is always worth it.
9. Proofread before you publish: Spell-check (there is a spell-check feature on the blogs), fix, change, delete, move, and do whatever you need to do to be happy with what you've finished (or thought you finished:).
10. Read and listen to the comments people leave you: Don't take suggestions personally.  We are all--myself as much as anybody--on a journey to becoming better writers, and that means reflecting on criticism from people you respect.  You can ignore people's comments, but you should at the very least, consider them in the spirit in which they were offered.  They took the time to read your story thoughtfully, and that is a big deal!
11. Write another personal narrative: Think of writing as like playing baseball.  If you get a hit once every three at bats, you are considered to be a great baseball player; if you get a home-run every twenty at bats, you are worshiped as one of the greats.  But you have to step to the plate and swing at the pitches you know you can hit.

So start swinging.  There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.  Through our writing community, we are on a big practice field, and life is throwing us plenty of pitches!How

So much depends
on the red wheelbarrow
glazed with rain water
beside the white chickens.

-William Carlos Williams

It was funny to be swimming and clambering around with my kids yesterday in a remote stream in the Berkshires and thinking: "This would be a cool experience to blog about!" People ask me sometimes if encouraging people to get on the computer is a "good thing." As with anything in life, it is only a bad thing when it is used un-wisely or at the expense of living your life to the fullest. As I write this on my back porch, Charlie is swinging on a rope swing: EJ is collecting ants for his ant farm while Tommy investigates and shouts with joy at every caterpillar he can find.  I am eager to pack up the bus and head to the Cape and get my old sailboat in the water, so I can spend longs days (and some nights) cruising around Pleasant Bay and Vineyard Sound.   After years of teaching writing, I can say with confidence that personal narrative writing is the number one BEST way to improve the overall quality of your writing. You have to have experience before you can recreate that experience.

Personal Narratives are the stories of our lives.  By habitually practicing the art of storytelling through personal narratives we practice the basic craft of the Short Story and the Essay. By telling the stories of our lives we follow the main rule of all writing: Write about what you know! I could write all day about the joy of Bungee jumping, and I still couldn't convince a toad that I knew what I was talking about.  But if I wrote about the day I watched people bungee jumping off a bridge, then I could probably get that toad to publish the story for me. I could be the protagonist, and my best friend forcing me to try could be the antagonist; fear of jumping into the unknown could be the conflict; standing up to my friend could be the climax; falling out of a tree when I was young could be my supporting facts; facing and trying to overcome my fears could become the theme of my essay/story, and when a reader can relate to  your theme, they are able to recreate your story in their own imaginations.  It might force them to think about their own fears, and in doing so, your story effects a powerful transformations in their lives.

Every day and every experience is a possible personal narrative.  If that experience means anything to you, it will mean the same thing to someone else because we are all tied together by our "common humanity;" we share the same emotional connections, but how we experience those emotions is infinite and infinitely varied--and that is why our libraries and bookshelves are filled, and that is why we all keep returning to the power and creative magic of literature.  Think of everything you write as true literature.
Don't get bogged down by form and structure, but do ask yourself why you are writing about that experience.

Here are a few ideas I keep in my head when writing a personal narrative.  These ideas also work for any type of short story:

1. Put a man in tree.  Throw stones at him.  Get him down: That is to say, whenever we write a personal narrative or a short story we need to create the scene, show the conflict, and then show how that conflict works itself out.
2. Make sure your reader has an idea of where you are taking him or her "early" in the story. Nobody likes to get in a car blind-folded with a stranger and have no idea where he is taking you. You will jump out of the car at the first chance you get!  You don't need or want to be specific about where you are going with your story, but you certainly want your reader to feel like it is going to be an interesting ride. A simple strategy is to make sure that somewhere (preferably at the end) of your first paragraph there is some kid of guiding statement or foreshadowing technique that assures your reader that your story is going to be worth ride.
3. Use specific images and actions to tell your story: Always remember that your reader is not "in your mind." They can't see what is in your head until you "show" them.
4. Use nouns and verbs to create those images and actions: Your readers can put together nouns and verbs without much difficulty. Use adjectives and adverbs only as a way to help your reader--not distract them. The "red wheelbarrow, glazed with rain water beside the white chickens" is a great way to "paint a scene."  If William Carlos Williams wrote the same line as, "the chickens are next to the wet wheelbarrow," then his poem would probably have died a short death.
5. Well chosen dialogue makes everything you write come alive: Words spoken by people who were with you act like supporting facts in an essay.  They are proof that what you say is true, and serve to engage another part of your readers senses. Remember to always lead into a quote by setting the scene; don't just drop dialogue int a writing piece with no context to "hear" that dialogue spoken.
6. Punctuate as well as you can:   For the most part, punctuation is all about the comma--everything else flows from understanding when and where  comma works best.  In future posts, I will deal with commas and other punctuation in more detail. For right now, just be aware that punctuation (a relatively recent part of the creative process) simply helps your reader experience what you want them to experience.
7. Use paragraphs to lead your reader through your story: Contrary to what we are often taught, there is no minimum or maximum "length" for a paragraph. In a short piece, short paragraphs work fine.  Long paragraphs work well in longer pieces.  As a suggestion (not a rule) have the first sentence of your paragraph indicate the direction or idea you are going to write about.  (I call those sentences "steering sentences.") If when writing or editing you find yourself "off of the idea," then simply start a new paragraph.
8. Try to end your story by leaving your readers thinking, wondering, wowing, squirming or relieved:  Just don't leave them hanging.  If your story is well told, the ride is always worth it.
9. Proofread before you publish: Spell-check (there is a spell-check feature on the blogs), fix, change, delete, move, and do whatever you need to do to be happy with what you've finished (or thought you finished:).
10. Read and listen to the comments people leave you: Don't take suggestions personally.  We are all--myself as much as anybody--on a journey to becoming better writers, and that means reflecting on criticism from people you respect.  You can ignore people's comments, but you should at the very least, consider them in the spirit in which they were offered.  They took the time to read your story thoughtfully, and that is a big deal!
11. Write another personal narrative: Think of writing as like playing baseball.  If you get a hit once every three at bats, you are considered to be a great baseball player; if you get a home-run every twenty at bats, you are worshiped as one of the greats.  But you have to step to the plate and swing at the pitches you know you can hit.

So start swinging.  There is nothing to lose and everything to gain.  Through our writing community, we are on a big practice field, and life is throwing us plenty of pitches!How