I’m sitting here on the bus up in Winsdor mountain NH… our favorite place in the world. It’s our fourth summer here, and I am amazed thinking of the journey of our family over the past few years.
Two summer ago, I sat on this bus surrounded by notes: phone numbers and address scrawled on papers, formal documents, handwritten letters and it seemed the cell phone was permanently attached to my ear. I was frantically making phone calls to doctors, politicians, anyone I could think of who could help us. A picture of Pipo was taped up on the fridge on the bus. Our son, who we had never met, waited for us in a hospital a world away. I don’t know how much of camp I remember that summer, I was so caught up in my battle to get Pipo here.
The battle won, and our new son settling into the family, I found myself sitting on this bus again a year later. This time fighting another battle, the battle for his health. I sorted out his pills read up on the side effects of the new oral chemo drugs he was taking, and tried to keep infections at bay. Pipo was trying to figure out one more huge adjustment of many in his life… figuring out what camp life was all about. He loved the games, wasn’t sure about the food, and was learning to love the water. Our son who had never been swimming in his life talked himself into jumping off the highdive by the end of that summer. So many things beyond health were a challenge for him that summer. His English was getting better, but still a struggle, and he was still learning how to fit himself into our large, crazy family.
So here I sit, another year gone by. It’s the first day of classes for our kids today, and I am watching Pipo out beyond the bus, playing soccer. There are 5 other kids out there, and they all look like teenagers. Pipo is a good foot shorter than all of them. I recognize the counselor from South Africa, on of our Jamaican friends, and the new Indian counselor. Pipo had walked across the field full of confidence, shaking hands with the new counselor, and pointing over here to the bus, probably explaining it is our home for the next 2 weeks. I watch the counselors trying to divide the small groups into teams, and subtly looking over at Pipo, wondering how he will do in this group of nearly grown men. The game starts, and they give him a little room to move the ball, obviously holding back a bit, feeling sorry for the ‘little guy’. Pipo doesn’t waste their kindness… he takes off with the ball immediately, passing off to a teammate and running with the ball. The other guys, taken by surprise, are not quick enough to follow, and Pipo get the ball back and heads straight for the net, blasting a shot off quickly. His teammates laugh and high-five him, and the game gets more serious now. This kis can obviously hold his own, and they will treat him with more respect.
I am so incredibly in love with this kid. He can be a complete pain in the tailbone, his stubbornness rivaling my own, but I stop and look at where he has come in such a short time, and I know that stubbornness is what makes him who he is.
POST SCRIPT: before anyone mentions how “lucky” he is, you might want to read my thoughts about that in THIS post. Fitz has come up with the best response yet to that statement. Pipo is an incredibly unlucky kid, who finally caught a break. And we are incredibly grateful that we were the ones chosen to give him that break. I am in awe of this kid every day.
Wow! What a boy, what a family, what a story!
It was so interesting to start it by referring to the same place at different times!
I love the way you paint such vivid pictures of your life, your family!
Posted by: Elizabeth | July 02, 2007 at 07:53 PM
Denise I'm in awe of how your writing voice sounds so much like your speaking voice.....anyway.... thanks for sharing the story of Phillipe and helping us all get intent vs impact. Have a great time at camp...what a life, eh? and what a break for you!!!
Posted by: elizabeth cobblah | July 02, 2007 at 09:47 PM
Beautiful!
What a great variety of experiences you've given him and your whole family already!
Have a great time at camp!
Posted by: Janet | July 03, 2007 at 09:06 AM
I'm so grateful for the laughs you fit into your really painful stories. It's a remarkable gift.
Posted by: Larane | July 04, 2007 at 06:43 PM
Whew! Your writing seems to always fire me up--THANK YOU. And, Fitz, your "lucky" comments are so right on... We are two moms with two adopted bi-racial girls. Your "lucky" piece made me think of the looks on those I-guess-well-meaning-what-country-did-you-adopt-from faces when we respond, "Pennsylvania."
Posted by: Sue | July 06, 2007 at 10:52 AM
Denise - I really enjoyed the "time lapse" format of this piece -- the chance to be in the same place (physically) for an annual visit can help us appreciate how much distance we cover in daily living -- personal growth and depth of experience can be hard to see without that chance to step back. It's kind of like how you don't see your own kids growing taller day after day, but the nieces and nephews you see less often sure seem to change fast! Congratulations to you, Pipo, and the whole family -- you are all lucky to have each other!
Posted by: mimi | July 12, 2007 at 04:50 PM
Nice read. You always write so well and tell a great story. great to hear how much fun the camp is. keep up the great posts
Posted by: Rich | July 14, 2007 at 10:59 AM